Things I would tell my younger self
I know this sounds cliche but the older I get the faster time seems to move. We are already in April! How are those New Year’s resolutions you made four months ago turning out so far? Have you taken stock of how you are doing with those or are you actively taking steps toward those? In six months it will be October again! What do you want to make happen in the next six months?
I have been focusing on my health and have been on a health journey since last September so I’m six months in. At least one thing I learned, is that it takes time and a lot of patience. Things don’t just happen overnight.
With time moving fast, there have been a few things on my mind lately that I wish I could go back and tell my younger self. Here are just a few (for now):
Let them. Let them walk away. Let them have their parties and not invite you. Let them say the things they say to your face (or behind your back). Let them. You know the truth and the truth always prevails and wins. Don’t take it personally.
And based on #1, it is okay to let people go who are toxic and not building value in your life. They may be lifelong friends or only there for a week, but if they are no longer serving your greater good and just breaking you down, then it is time to let go. People come and go in your life. If you are around someone who is just making you feel bad, reflect on it and maybe decide if it is time to let go and move on.
That thing you’ve been putting off for two weeks is going to take you 15 minutes. Go do it - it will only take you 15 minutes
Have the big, uncomfortable talks and make decisions for your 80/90-year-old self looking back at this moment in time. What does she want you to do?
Use your nice stuff, don’t wait for a special occasion. The special occasion is today! You are alive. But if you don’t use it and don’t absolutely love it, maybe get rid of it or give it a new home
Everyone you are observing who seems to have it all together - they have help. They have family or hired help or friends. No one can do it alone. It is important to build a community.
Speaking of help, it is very important to learn to ask for help and accept it without shame.
Stop worrying about what others think or say about you. You are gorgeous. You are special and go out there be intentional every single about and be your absolute greatest self.
Get uncomfortable and find the next step. Don’t look at the end just now. Just find the next small step and trust God and the universe to guide you to the next step. You are always moving forward and stop thinking about the past. When God is doing a new thing in your plan, He knows what he is doing. Forget the old, embrace the new. Stop living in the comfortable and familiar - it is dangerous and you are missing out on all the beauty that is meant for you.
Going back to my point in the intro paragraph. Don’t expect instant results if you have a goal. It can be anything in your life. For me it is health. Eating healthy. Focussing on my gut health and getting stronger in the gym. It takes time and you have to have patience. Things don’t just happen overnight. I am six months into this and it has become a way of life for me and I’ve never had this much energy. I feel amazing and don’t want to stop. It is all about making small tweaks every day/week and getting to a point where it just clicks and that best works for me. It may not work for the next person, but it is important to be aware that it is a journey. And have fun with it!
And lastly….
Get crystal clear on your vision for the next year, but also the next 5... 10 years, and then ask yourself if your current path aligns with that vision. Progress means nothing if you're heading down the wrong path.
